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Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 22:38

The unlucky only exist so that those of us that are lucky have a point of reference in knowing that we are, in fact, lucky.

More to come. Stay tuned.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby phillyb™ » 10/10/13 @ 22:40

in for drunk posts

currently posting from the bar
don't get caught
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 22:44

Men's fashion is easy...

Casual clothes - buy off the mannequin. There is a stylist making 250K a year to figure this shit out... heed her advice and buy what the mannequin is wearing.

Suits - If you are shopping at a store that doesn't have someone fawning over you... you, Sir, are at the wrong store. A suit is an intimate thing and there should be someone beside you caressing the fabric with you every step of the way. If he can't figure out what suit you need based upon the occasion, season, your body shape and size, and skin colouring... you, Sir, are at the wrong store.

And for godssake, get that damn thing properly tailored.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 22:47

Your confidence, and self-esteem, is directly proportional to the amount of attention you get from the opposite/same sex.

Not finding someone and/or not getting laid is a 'you' issue. Not a 'them' issue.

Nobody wants to fuck someone wearing a goddamn fedora with the self-esteem of roadkill.

Nobody.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/10/13 @ 22:50

well gee
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 22:56

There really is just one...

Everyone has that one person they know they should be with. Having the guts to be with that person is another story, isn't it? Took me fifteen years.

Don't be the asshole, or askhole, that waits sixteen years to be with the right person. If you know who that is for you then you need to log-off and do something about it.

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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/10/13 @ 23:08

Got a spare space at the booth?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:09

Bryan wrote:Got a spare space at the booth?


Take a seat! What are you drinking?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/10/13 @ 23:10

So morel of the story for me is stop lolly gagging and just go for it?

i might try this. Tune in next week to see how well that goes for me.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:15

I came to my favourite bar and sat in my favourite booth to avoid the type of people that pretend to have random thoughts when; in reality, they are realizations they've had for years but refuse to either change them or accept them.

meow. If you don't mind, I'd like to be left alone in peace and enjoy a cocktail with my friend Bryan.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/10/13 @ 23:19

Alright i will take my odouls elsewhere.

I might come back with a generally appropriate conversation then at a future time.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:26

I was taught that compromise is 50/50. You give a little, she gives a little, and the rest just works itself out in the wash. Wrong.

Want to know what real compromise is and what it takes to really make a relationship work? Easy.

100/100

Anything less than both giving 100% is nothing more than a set timer. It will end. Badly. How many years you waste is entirely up to you but if you're in a relationship whereby you feel the ratio is skewed. You, Sir, are fucked.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:28

By the way, I really like this bar. I might stay a while...
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/10/13 @ 23:31

Stoly wrote:
Bryan wrote:Got a spare space at the booth?


Take a seat! What are you drinking?
I'm a bourbon man, though I also have a soft spot for Dunkels, Porters, and Stouts.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:48

Beatles. Be a dear and fetch my friend Bryan three fingers of Woodford Reserve. Neat.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:50

Cigar, Bryan?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/10/13 @ 23:51

Stoly wrote:Beatles. Be a dear and fetch my friend Bryan three fingers of Woodford Reserve. Neat.


Oooo...Woodford? You are a man after my own heart. One of the few bourbons (that I've tried) that I could drink straight without wishing I was sloshy to take the edge off.

Stoly wrote:Cigar, Bryan?


Not a smoker, of any type. One vice is good enough :lol:
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/10/13 @ 23:52

And then we'll expound upon the very nature of what love and relationships are, were, and could be. I feel a poem about to burst from my very soul this fine evening. We'll leave this bar better men. Of that, I have no doubt.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/10/13 @ 23:53

I came up with a saying once:

The hardest part of life is not getting your foot in the door; it's deciding whether or not to keep it there when the door is inevitably slammed in your face.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/10/13 @ 23:53

As you requested sir.

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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:01

Thank you, Beatles.

Bryan - take that magical long slow first sip and tell me... Any regrets?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:02

Bryan wrote:I came up with a saying once:

The hardest part of life is not getting your foot in the door; it's deciding whether or not to keep it there when the door is inevitably slammed in your face.


I quite like that.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/11/13 @ 00:06

Stoly wrote:Thank you, Beatles.

Bryan - take that magical long slow first sip and tell me... Any regrets?

If I had any regrets in my life it'd be this...beatles, time to take notes.

I spent almost half my life pining for a relationship with a woman. I had plenty of platonic ones--heck, enough to make me realize in retrospect that I either seemed like a gigolo (unlikely given my personality) or that I might possibly be gay, but not a romantic one.

I became bitter.

I became slightly misogynistic.

I felt sorry for myself.

Most of all, I missed out on a lot of good life (I've had plenty otherwise, don't get me wrong).

Point is, find something (or things) you enjoy and put your energy towards that. Waste one moment to ever feel sorry for yourself to get it out of your system, then move on!
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:07

That was a very long sip...
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:07

I kid!
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:07

I have none. And here is why...
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/11/13 @ 00:10

Bryan that is the type of thing I have been searching for. I feel that describes me pretty well.

Let me see what I can do about that.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:11

I can't undo anything I've done. And I do believe in some kind of 'butterfly effect' whereby one slight change could alter the outcome of my life. I fucked up.

Somehow I'm right back where I was when I fell in love.

I have a love of my life. And I am hers.

There, in theory, should be this fifteen year hole/gap. There isn't. There is just this time apart that neither of us will ever let happen again.

Beatles. Be a dear and bring me another double tall Jack-n-water. And a fresh ashtray, if possible.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/11/13 @ 00:13

So is that your regret?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby andy » 10/11/13 @ 00:15

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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/11/13 @ 00:18

xbeatles4x wrote:Bryan that is the type of thing I have been searching for. I feel that describes me pretty well.

Let me see what I can do about that.


The sooner you learn to not base your self worth on the degree to which you find women are attracted to you, the sooner you won't have to ;)
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:18

Bryan wrote:So is that your regret?


Whilst waiting for Beatle's to refill my drink...

More of a curiosity about how people look at life. I don't have any regrets because I don't see things that way. But I do understand the desire to undo, or change, things in one's past/present.

Without a doubt, this is my kind of conversation.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:19

Thank you, Beatles.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:20

I kinda bullshitted that one, didn't I?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:20

Here is my one regret.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/11/13 @ 00:23

Stoly wrote:
Bryan wrote:So is that your regret?

More of a curiosity about how people look at life. I don't have any regrets because I don't see things that way. But I do understand the desire to undo, or change, things in one's past/present.


Just having regrets doesn't necessarily mean I'd change anything if I had it to do again. Where I am meow is where I'm happy and, as you pointed out, a single decision here or there could likely have created an entirely different reality for me.

That's part of why I seriously don't believe there is ONE person for everyone. There are simply too many people and too many paths one life can take for only one of them to have a satisfying relationship at the end.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby phillyb™ » 10/11/13 @ 00:25

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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:26

I wasn't brave enough, nor strong enough, to tell my biological parents to go fuck themselves when I was 21. It took me until I was 31. That is my butterfly effect and the reason I struggle with regret...

I have no idea what would have become of us then if I had.

I know what we are, and forever will be, because I didn't.
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Bryan » 10/11/13 @ 00:28

Well, are you happy meow?
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Re: Stoly's Booth at The Bar

postby Stoly » 10/11/13 @ 00:29

I disagree. I do think there is just one. That one perfect person. That one person that makes you a better you.

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